The Jeffersonian Democrat, 1859-03-25

; ; of ; to a ; is a wo tor to life it ko the of of at ! is It is assorted by somo philosopher, who protends to a certain amount of knowledge of tlio human hwart, that any tnnn ol ordin ary attainments and possessed of a resoluto will, can get any woman's allVciions, if they aro not already bestowed ulsew bore op opportunities - portunities opportunities lor courtship are of course un understood. - derstood. understood. The rulo ia probably not entirely universal, and perhaps not near enough to universality to make the exceptions unim unimportant. - portant. unimportant. I'lioro ia no doubt, howovnr. that tho gentler aex is generally impressible, and men aro ftcqnent'y ast'o'iiished at the sue cobs of those of their acquaintance who seem to thorn particularly dostitutu of per personal - sonal personal attractions. Tho constant attentions t f a man who professes a degree of sinrori sinrori-ty, - ty, sinrori-ty, aro always complimentary and if be is really in lovo, ho insensibly acquires a re refinement - finement refinement of manner which no other passion can engender, and a refinement of naturo which no hypocrisy can simulate. I (.added to this, bo bus conversational powers, and tho tact to muko himself agreeable, it is quite within tho compass of his ability to creato enough interest in a woman's heart to ren render - der render her uncomfortable when his attentions aro withdrawn. There is a great deal of flirtation which begun, carried en, and ended without any delinilo intentions. A man is thrown, per perhaps - haps perhaps accidentally, into ihu society of an at attractive - tractive attractive woman and from more selfishness he devotes himself particularly to her fur timo, only because sho pleases or amuses biin. Ho does not formally lay aiego to bcr liourt ho does not deliberately undertake to muko a conquutrTXuiy to gratify his vani ty ana no uoo.8 not Cream ot manifesting any special " intentions." I'crhnps the lady niay appreciate some particular quality his, tt which bo is a little vain and sho tho more pleasing to him, just in proportion as this appreciation Is fluttering. He may bo heart whole or if ho is capable of genu- ino affections, be may have placed them upon unothor object yot ho does not hesi hesitate - tate hesitate to bo peculiarly devoted to a young and susceptible woman, upon whoso heart ho leaves un indoliblo scar whon ho rudely strikes down tho castles her fancy may have bunded upon biB toriiier dumcanor.by coldly and indifferently transferring his attentions to a new victim. Although the man is only chargoablu with the impropriety of inflict ing a wound thoughtlessly still there is real wound inflicted and ho has added somewhat to Iho unhappiness of a gentle being, whom bo was bound by evory prin ciple of mure manhood lo comfort aud do do-lond. - lond. do-lond. If this selfish carelessness is rcprchcnsiblo bow much moro is tho conduct of the eny Lothario, who deliberately plunBa conquest wlioeo only mulivo is vanity, and whose only object is the proof of his tascinatiug powers. Ho attaches himself resolutely one young lady, and binds all his cnorgics tho accomplishment of a putty triumph. Ho professes himself happy only when her presence and livos only upon her einiles. It is rather contemptible when pathos is assumed for effect. Ho keops himsoli outside ot actionablo limits ia euro fully non-committal and aa aoon aa bo as certains that ho baa certainly made an im pression, and that tbo withdrawal of marked attentions will Icavo ascar.bis work is finished, and ho socks a new field for display ot his manly prowess. In tho pri private - vate private collections of aucb a mail, will bo lounJ a dozen or two locka of buir bright memo riuls of brilliant victories. Hero, tho sunny curl, from tlio head ot aomo gentle and trusting child of sensibility, who probably boliuvcd li is first fulso whisper; aud tbore, the raven truss of somo passiouuto woman, who loved not wisely, but too well, and whose life has beuu embittered by his t roach Verily, tho sculps that bedeck the girdlo aud fringo tho hunting shirt of tbo Pawnee, though torn from tho heads of un resisting women and helpless children, aro moro glorious trophies than those. There is another kind of male flirt who probublv belongs to the most numorous class of all. Ho is not fulso ho is only ficklo. He is highly inflammable and fulls desperately in lovo at the shortest notice Such a man has uo experiences to profit his life is a succession of accidents. Dur During - ing During tbo week or mouth in which bo is bouud in any particular silken chain, ho is ready climb mountains, awim rivers, fight a score of Hyrcan tigers, and, in fact, to accomplish any impossible task, in order to win the be loved object. Ho is a strong believer runaway matches, and rarely gets entangled in the mushes ot a not cast into smooth ters. If supposod obstacles are removed are proved not to exist, and tnero is noiti ing between bim aud tho fruition rf all ardent hopes, his passion wanes. If ho not gone too far to retreat or whethor bus or not, he ganorally manages to got of tho scrape. Ho lives a lito of torment account el uuruturncd, and, for aught knows, uudestroyod letters letters which were wiitton whilo tho fever wae highest, and which might burn themselves through their onvoIopoB, 80 lorvid are tney, usually haa two or three stringa to his bow, und cannot find tall occupation tor hia rxu bo rant powers if confined to only one affair at a time. It would aeetn that such a man could not do much duniago in the world but ho makes impressions, it only by violence ot his assaults ; and each suliorer in turn fancies herself tho ono ablo lo bis ficklo attentions. If he ever marries.lns wedded lifo must bo a very humdrum sort of ufl'air, for ho ia tho last man in iho world to understand or appreciate connuuiai e-nsB. Tho ovila wrought in aociuty by these butterflies aro neither few nor trivial. wounds uro so long in healing as those in inflicted - flicted inflicted upon the affections, and even if timo cures the positive pain caused by disappoint disappointment - ment disappointment in heart affaire, the result ia a callous callousness - ness callousness mure to bo deplored than actual suf fering. In tho majority of cases, heartless woman ia one who haa been heartlessly docoired. It la a woman'a nature to trust implicitly whore she bostowa her love ber trustfulness ia hor moat charming attri attribute - bute attribute ; the mora guilty, therefore, ia man who doatroys it. A Binding exterior covera many a deeply scarred heart but day may eome wtieo ciieae wounds win revealed, whoa perhaps the world will astonished to learn how much evil a little thing may do. For of all small things the most diminutive of all " small potatoos" is the malo flirt. Baltimore American.

is a of is Let it novor come upon you. Live ao that good angida may protect ynu from this ter terrible - rible terrible evil tho winter of the hoart. Lot no chilling influonco freeze up the fountuin of aymputhy and happinosa from its depths; no cold burthon aotllo over. Its withered hopes, Iiko anow on the faded flowers ; no rudo blasts of discontont moan and shriek through its desolate chambers. Your lifo path may load you amid trials, which for a timo accm entirely to impede) your progress, and shutout the Tory light ot ncaven irom your anxious gnzo. Petiury may tuke tho placo of ease and plenty; your luxurious home may be ex exchanged - changed exchanged for a single, lowly room tbo soft couch for tho straw pullot the rich viands for the coarse food of the poor. Summer friends may foreuke you, and the unpitying world pasa you with scarcely a word of com compassion. - passion. compassion. You may bo forced to toil wearily, etoadily on, to earn a livelihood ; you may encounter fraud and base ararico, which would extort tho last farthing, till you well nigh turn lo disguet from your fellow-beings. Death may" sovor the dear tics that bind you to eartb, aud leare you iu fearful durk durk-noss. - noss. durk-noss. Tbo noblo, manly boy. the solo hope of your declining years, may be taken from you, whilo your spirit clinga to him with a wild tenacity, which oven the shadow of the tomb cannot wholly aubdue. But amid all these Borrows, do not coma to tho conclusion that nobody was ever ao deeply afflicted aa you aro, aud abandon every sweet anticipation of "bettor daya" ia the unknown future. Do not loeo your faith in human excel excellence - lence excellence because your confidence haa boon bo bo-trayod, - trayod, bo-trayod, nor believe that friendship is only a delusion, and lovo a bright phantom which glido3 away from your grasp. Do not think you are fated to bo misora misora-bio - bio misora-bio bocauso you are disappointed In your expectations and bafllod in your pursuits Do not declare that God haa forsaken you when your way ia bodged with thorns, or repine sinfully whon be calls your dear ones to the land beyond the grave. Keep a holy trust in heaven through overy trial; bear adversity with fortitudo, and look upward in houra of temptation and suffering. When your locka are white, your eyes dim, and your limbs weary; when your atepa falter on the verge of death's gloomy vale, atill retain the Ireabnoss and buoyancy of epirit which will shield you. from tho winter of the heart.

" I have branded vou. air." snid one indi- vlduul fiercely to another. "You rothor seem to havo hrandied yourself." " Now, Sam, if you don't stop lickinn that mnlusses, I'll toll tho man." "You tell tlio man, and I'll lick you and tho 'lasses too." "Did you say that my brother Jim did not know na much at Smith's yollow dog r" "No, I said that Smith's yellow dog kuow moro than your brother Jim." Baciiri.ors aro not cntiroly lost to tho re refinement - finement refinement ol sentiment, for tho following toast wns pivot! by ono of them at a celebration "Tho Ladies Swcotbriors iti tho garden of life." A short man became attachod to a tall woman, und somebody said ho had fallen in love with her. "Do you call it falling in lovo ?" said tho suitor, " it's moro like climbing." ' Paddy," aaid a jokor, " why don't you got your eara cropped thoy aro entirely too long for a man ? " And your's," replied I'at, " ought to bo lungtbonou they are too short for tin ass." Ax awkward man, attompting to carro ft gooso, dropped it on tho floor. " There, now 1" exclaimed his wife, " wo'vo lost our dinner." "Ohl no, my doar l" answered ho, " it's safe ; I have got my foot upon it 1" Saubo bought a patriarchal turkey. " took him homo," says ho, " my wife bile him trco hours, and don him crow I my wife den pep him into do pot wid six pounds of t.itors a ud ho kick 'em all out ; he must a biu as old as dat Ketoosolum. Mr hair is eighteen years older than my whiskors, said a lawyor, and I cannot undor undor-stund - stund undor-stund why my whUkors should turn groy first ? "Bocauso you havo worked so much more with your jaws than your brains," ro ro-plied - plied ro-plied Brown. A GLlTTON of a follow who was dining at a hotel, in tho course of tho battle of knivos and forks, accidentally cut bis mouth, which was observed by a Yunkuo opposito, who bawled out "I say. Mister, don't muko that hole in your countenance any larger, or we snail all starve, One of our exchange papers, speaking of the candidates for tho Legislature, iu ono of tno counties ot Wisconsin, says that J. M. Hoot is tho Democratic, Ilobert Hogg tho 1'roo Soil and T. II. Dyo the Whig caudi caudi-duto. - duto. caudi-duto. So with tho voters we suppose it will bo foot, Hogg or liije and uo mistake.

I rnonioALS are boru of misers and butter butterflies - flies butterflies are born of grubs. Did wo not flatter oursolvoa, tho flattery of othera could not hurt us. He that is choico of his timo, will bochoico of his company and of his nctionB. A mind that is conscious of its integrity, scorns to sny mora than it moans to purfurm. The most dolicato tho most sensible of all pleasures, consists in promoting the plea pleasures - sures pleasures of others. Wiie.v wo record our angry feelings, lot it bo on tho snow, that thu first bourn ol sunshino may obliterate thoin for ovor. Orn tempers are Iiko an opora glass, which makes tho object small or groat, ac according - cording according to the cud oo a look through. CoMi'liTENCY is a sort of financial horizon which recedes as wo advance The word always signifies a little moro than wo possess. Am, pleasures, aaya John Fostor, must bo bouaht at tho expense ot nam. Ihouinor onco between false pleasures and truo, is just this, for truo tho prico is paid before you enjoy it, for fulso afterwards. Tiii'UK aro two things, aaya a contempor contemporary, - ary, contemporary, which makes us huppy in life. Tho first is, novor to vex ourselves about what wo can't help. And tho second is Iiko uuto it, novor to vex ourstdves about what wo can help. Hope is tho ruddy morning ray of joy recollection is its golden tinge; but tho lat latter - ter latter is wont to sink amid tho dews nnd dusky shades of twilight ; und tho bright bluo day which tho former promises, breaks indeed, but in another world, and with another sun. It is no small commendation to imtnago little well. Ho is a good wagoner who can turn in a little room. To livo well in abund abundance - ance abundance is the pruiso of the porson. I will study moro to give a good account of nit little, than how to make it more. liithop Hall. Du. Johnson used to say that a habit of looking at tho bust sido of every event is fur better than a thousand pounds a year Bishop Hall quaintly remarks, for overy bad thoro might be a worse, and when ono breaks hia log, let him bo thankful that it was not hia nock t When Fenelon'a library wns on fire, " God bo praised," ho exclaimed, " thnt it is not tho dwelling of somo poor mail Thia is the true spirit of submission one tho most beautiful traits tbut cud possess tho human heart.

a to to in his his the -ery. Mr. Fornet, of the Philadelphia Press, In discoursing upon "Party Newspapers," aaye: The index of an improving publio taste, and of a spirit of inquiring indopendenoo, on tho part of tho musses, ia to be found in tbo rapid decadenco of more party newspapers. Wo havo known what it is to reflect the sentimontB of moroly mortal men; wo havo known what it is to walk the dull and dis dismal - mal dismal routino of mere organization; and we can sympathise with those who groan and sweat undor tho yoke which has been put upon thorn (by party exactions.) ' Mr. Calhoun, iu ono of bia groatest apoeches, aaid "opinion is power" in this hap py country o! ours; and it tbia waa true tur tur-ty - ty tur-ty years ago, it ia forty times truer to-day ltnaglno, for instance, what would becomo of science in all its abstruse varieties and won wonderful - derful wonderful mysteries, if it were graded and clip clipped - ped clipped by aome mere individual authority! and whore ia there a grander acieuco than that of human government, and particularly tbe government of a free people? A newspa newspaper, - per, newspaper, to bo popular, must excel in evory de department - partment department Lot it be but honest, and ita mistakes will bo forgiven. Lot its tone bo olevated, and even its prejudices will bo res respected. - pected. respected. Let ita antagonisms be erect and honest, and tbey will be believed in. Let it dure to do right, and it will prove to be a most terriblo opponent ol wrong. "Ren "Rendering - dering "Rendering unto Caesar tbe thiugs which belong to Ca'sar," and giving "i.01101 where honor ia duo," applauding un enemy if bia acts are worthy of applause any journal standing upon thia conviction cannot fuil to com command - mand command and bold a wido and increasing influonco.